deanpdf:

dean on reddit like /relationships: not sure where to put this but i (m, 40s) have had multiple orgies where men were present and also when i fantasize about growing old it’s always by the side of my best friend (m, 30s/40s i guess? long story) but i’m not gay. however, i also have no desire to have sex with women anymore because all of my emotional needs / etc are being fulfilled by my best friend. it’s not like we have sex, we DON’T (i’m not gay), but over time i’ve found that spending time with him is just more fulfilling in general. what do i do. i’m not gay. why do i feel this way?? and he also recently came out to me (longer story) and like, i WOULD have sex with him if he asked because he’s just been having a rough time recently, so i would definitely have sex with him if he asked. but that doesn’t make me gay, right? it’s NOT gay to have sex with your buddy if you’re just helping a buddy out, you know? that’s just what friends do and it’s common courtesy. should i wait for him to ask first or should i just offer it. he’s kind of awkward about this stuff so i feel like i might need to just go ahead and ask myself

tldr: should i (not gay) offer gay sex to my best friend because he likes me, and i also want to live with him for the rest of my life anyway so i figure this will clear the air